A Little Birdie Told You

when the anxious attachment becomes avoidant.

Sometimes the pain of constantly chasing, waiting, and seeking love triggers a protective mechanism that leads an anxious attachment into an avoidant state. Whether it’s always being the one waiting for that reply, making excuses, giving until there’s nothing left, maybe the anxious finally gave up and became protective of their heart. Because at one point, the person who craved closeness is now afraid of it. In this episode, Kristen expresses the shift that sometimes occurs in an anxious attachment into the avoidant, learning to heal, and navigating relationships in a healthy way. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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the last meeting theory

There’s a theory that claims when you’ve learned the lesson a connection was meant to teach you, you and that person will never cross paths again. No matter the distance, shared friends, or mutual places, you never bump into them again. Well, in this episode, Kristen shares the truth about this theory. Discussing her perspective, explaining the overall meaning, the purpose of never seeing this person again, and how you can be tested by encountering this person before entering a new chapter. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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your self respect must be stronger than your emotions

Sometimes our emotions can make us impulsively make decisions, but the truth is, emotions are temporary, they are constantly changing. The thing is, self-respect is different. Self-respect sets the standard for what type of treatment you accept. In this episode, Kristen discusses the commitment of choosing yourself, refusing to settle, developing a sense of self-respect, recognizing the importance of your boundaries, and learning to allow your self-respect to be louder than your emotions. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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stop being afraid of losing them, be afraid of losing yourself trying to keep them.

Many of us are afraid to let go of someone, so we cling to them, attempting to convince them why they should stay, leaving behind our standards and settling for treatment we don’t deserve. But, we don’t realize while we’re so focused on fixing the relationship, we’re slowly losing ourselves in the process. In this episode, Kristen emphasizes the importance of maintaining a relationship with yourself, refusing to betray your standards or abandon who you are, whether it's understanding the red flags, learning to let go, becoming grounded within yourself, or being aligned with your worth. It’s time to prioritize the relationship with yourself. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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how to stop thinking about them

Maybe you’re finding yourself thinking about that specific person, reminiscing on old memories, pondering on what could’ve been, or checking their social media. But, for every moment you think about them, is every moment you give them energy they may not deserve. In this episode, Kristen discusses how to actually prevent yourself from repeating the loop of constantly thinking about someone, especially those who didn’t value your presence when they had access to it. Whether it’s learning to redirect your energy back to yourself, breaking the pattern, or shifting your mindset, this episode teaches you how to finally stop thinking about them. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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you’re single. now what?

Perhaps you’ve entered your single season, whether you’re fresh out of heartbreak, struggling with loneliness, or attempting to become content with this period of romantic solitude, the key question remains: What do you do now that you’re single? In this episode, Kristen dives into the gift of being single, highlighting the importance of taking advantage of your singleness, as this is the time to find who you truly are, grow a relationship with yourself, and understand what you truly desire in yourself and partners. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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your detailed guide to detachment

You've most likely heard the familiar phrases of the art of detachment, letting go, and allowing yourself to release all tendencies to attach to outcomes. But, where does detachment begin? How can you actually become detached? Well, in this episode, Kristen guides you through the internal steps to build detachment within yourself to become unbothered and controlled when it comes to your emotions. Whether it’s learning to view situations as a simple experience, understanding what you can control, gaining a sense of independence, or figuring out what’s aligned with your path through detachment, this episode guides you to mastering the mindset of finally letting go. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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nobody is coming to save you, save yourself

This episode is the reality check you've needed. In this episode, Kristen gives you the hard truth: nobody is coming to save you. Many of us, whether you choose to admit it or not, are waiting for a perfect moment, person, or circumstance before we move forward or allow ourselves to be content. We wait, we hope, but it's time to become, to become the version of yourself that chooses yourself, gives yourself the love you desire, and understands that you can finally save yourself. Because the truth is, nobody is coming to save you, it's time to save yourself. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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how to stop romanticizing their potential

Many of us see the potential in the patterns of reality when it comes to a person. We create this idealized version of them in our minds, hoping that maybe if we stay a little longer, give a little more, or explain with more detail, that maybe they will change. Yet, the truth is, you cannot force change on someone who is unwilling to grow. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli discuss why it’s important to focus on the reality over the potential of a person, as their potential isn’t a promise. Whether it's learning how to let go, focusing on the present, or accepting reality, this episode gives you the relief in stopping yourself from romanticizing potential.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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the avoidant returned..now what?

An avoidant usually always makes a return, but should you let them? You may be asking yourself, why are they coming back? Why would the person who couldn’t commit come back? Is it curiosity, closure, or control? Well, in this episode, Kristen discusses what to do when the very person who left you decides to return, how to avoid repeating the cycle, the psychology behind the pattern, energetically detaching from the dynamic, and why rejecting an avoidant may be the best case scenario.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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