A Little Birdie Told You

the avoidant returned..now what?

An avoidant usually always makes a return, but should you let them? You may be asking yourself, why are they coming back? Why would the person who couldn’t commit come back? Is it curiosity, closure, or control? Well, in this episode, Kristen discusses what to do when the very person who left you decides to return, how to avoid repeating the cycle, the psychology behind the pattern, energetically detaching from the dynamic, and why rejecting an avoidant may be the best case scenario.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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mistakes aren’t punishment, they’re preparation

Mistakes are a necessary part of growth. Many of us believe mistakes are proof of failure, as if we’re falling behind. but the truth is, every mistake carries information that allows you to become equipped with knowledge to stop repeating the pattern. Every failed relationship, every wrong door opened, every setback, every disappointment, allows you to learn what you will refuse to tolerate ever again. Making mistakes gives you access to refine the person you’re becoming, to choose differently, to keep moving forward with clarity.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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why do I keep attracting the same type of relationships?

It seems we often attract the same type of partnerships. It almost seems as if it’s the same person in a different body, resulting in the same ending, betrayal, pain, and heartache. Realistically, are we attracting the same type of dynamics, or are we accepting? In this episode, Kristen discusses how to recognize the relationships you’re accepting. We learn how to break the pattern, decipher between safety and chaos in a relationship, set standards, and implement boundaries to prevent the cycle from repeating. Overall, you’re not attracting the same dynamics, you’re accepting them. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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learn to love being alone.

Learn to love your own company, not solely in a romanticizing sense, but actually loving the process of being alone. When you spend time with yourself, you uncover who you are without the outside noise, without external projections, you sit with your own emotions and triggers, revealing your true identity. In this episode, Kristen discusses how establishing your relationship with yourself not only sets the standards for everything that follows but also aligns with who you desire to become and understanding who you are at the core. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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trust that closed doors are protection, not punishment.

When a door shuts, we initially ask ourselves, “What went wrong?”We question ourselves and wonder what could have been done differently to keep the door open. However, you should be grateful that the door closed. If that door hadn't closed, you may have settled for less than you deserve and tolerated behavior that doesn’t align with who you’re meant to become. What seemed like punishment was actually protection in disguise. It didn't close to punish you, it closed to prevent you from staying in a space that didn't understand your value.  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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not every apology deserves access to you

Sometimes those who disrespected, betrayed, or hurt us finally decide to resurface after a duration of time and provide us with an apology for their actions. But the real question is, is their apology sincere? In this episode, we dissect the psychology behind apologies, revealing the three key reasons people feel the need to apologize, whether it’s due to guilt, ego conflict, or an attempt to see if they still have access to your energy. Why do they feel the need to apologize now? Does their apology deserve access to your energy? Well, in this episode, we give you all the necessary information to decide. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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finding yourself begins with unlearning who you were taught to become

When we are attempting to find our true identity, we first have to unlearn who we were taught to become. Many people in our environments will project limitations onto us, creating the need to feel validated and achieve certain expectations ingrained in our minds. But what’s life if you’re not truly living for yourself? In this episode, Kristen discusses why it’s crucial to unlearn the patterns and projections you were taught. Whether it’s recognizing these habits, choosing yourself, embracing authenticity, giving yourself permission, and practicing boundaries, let’s learn how to unlearn who we were taught to become. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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learning to finally let go.

Letting go of someone, something, or a situation can be a difficult process. Truthfully, letting go happens in layers. In this episode, Kristen and Kelli express why you should let go, breaking the cycle of attachment and choosing detachment, refusing to repeat patterns, understanding your emotions through the process of letting go, finding closure internally,  and why clinging onto what’s not meant for you is preventing you from creating space for what is.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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date with discernment, not desperation.

In this episode, we dive into the dating realm, giving you our honest truths when it comes to pursuing romantic relationships. Whether it's learning to choose yourself, deciphering between love and loneliness, consistency over intensity, pursuing love through discernment over desperation, establishing a relationship with yourself, understanding the value you carry into relationships, refusing to see potential over reality, listening to your intuition, setting standards, finding the love you deserve, or no longer waiting to be chosen, we discuss it all. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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trust your intuition

Choosing to trust your intuitive nudge can be crucial in navigating your life. Whether it’s distancing yourself from certain situations, a calling to pursue something, understanding the distinction between intuition and anxiety, navigating what’s meant for you, shifting from the perspective of what you desire to see to reality, and clarity versus confusion in this episode, we cover why you should heavily develop confidence in your intuition. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Disclaimer: The views expressed in this content do not, and do not intend to constitute legal advice, all information or advice provided is provided for informational and entertainment purposes. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast.